Heal yourself, heal the world
Sometimes we experience something that feels almost impossible to ‘get over’. Relationships, physical and health issues, finances etc. This can be frustrating as we just ‘want it to go away so we can get on with our lives’. As humans, life is always going to throw up ‘stuff’ for us to navigate and we always get to choose how we react or respond and we could choose a different perspective.
Whatever the ‘thing’ is, it is bringing an opportunity for growth. Nuggets of learning, like diamonds in the desert. Leaning into this with curiosity can help to soften the impact. And if we can surrender and trust instead of resisting and controlling, we can lessen (if not eliminate) our suffering.
This doesn’t mean it won’t ever feel hard, we won’t grieve loss etc - but I think it helps to know we always have a choice. We can’t know the bigger picture and have no idea what we might see, when we eventually look back upon an experience.
My mum has experienced cancer twice and each unique experience gave her gifts that she could never have imagined, as well as insights into things she had buried deeply and needed to be acknowledged and healed. Her experience has also enabled her to support and inspire others. She never chose to ‘fight’ cancer, rather she walked a path with it in grace and then released it.
I’m sure there were times she felt terrified and I know how arduous the hike was but also that she wouldn’t be who she is now without having had that experience.
Having cycled through the healing journey myself several times, I know personally how much more ‘pain' resistance causes. If only I could have seen that you can love someone and not be involved with them, how holding my body tense worsens the physical sensations or that sleepless nights in fear, of an imagined future, are depleting me of the very energy my body needs to restore itself to its natural state of well-being.
It took a few rounds for me to receive some of those lessons (being an empath with wounding didn’t help) but when I eventually recognised the patterns and cycles, I was able to begin at last.
Am I now perfect at this? Absolutely not! Do I still have healing to do? Absolutely!
I’m not sure ‘getting it done’ is the point. There will always be layers and deepening
As I move through my own personal layers, I have gathered some wonderful tools, teachers and therapists, who have held me whilst navigating some of my toughest and most painful transformations.
The Horses have definitely been an impactful part of my personal support system. They have always found a way of being in my life at exactly the right time (which in itself is mind blowing when I look back throughout the decades). Their physicality, wisdom and also the natural environment they inhabit, has all played a part in soothing and calming my body and mind, allowing the space necessary for any healing journey.
With no agenda and no judgement, I have been able to be vulnerable and open up to whatever needs expressing and whatever wants to be seen. I have been held and nurtured, at times asked to step up and not dwell in a place of self-pity and victimhood.
Always the correct medicine, always just the right amount.